To answer your original question in this post I would say the person has never studied Lee beyond the gossip of certain factions of folks who have a politically correct and uninformed view of the WBTS. Tell him to read Douglas Freeman's book on Lee. If they aren't big into reading and need a small (early reader) length book tell them to get themselves a copy of "The Christian Testimony of Robert E. Lee" by Dr. Edward DeVries. He can purchase a copy for about $7.00 off Dr. DeVries website at...
http://www.bibleschool.edu/Dr.DeVries/booktape.htm
That's a great little book to keep handy for everybody. I understand it is used in many home school programs too. There are still people who want to look for facts for themselves.